Relationships with ourselves, family, friends, partners , everyone in our life is a reflection of the self . Relationships show us what we like about ourselves and also what we need to work on, improve and heal in our being, it is like a mirror for us.
As humans our greatest desire is to love and be loved. And every single one of us deserves to have relationships that reflect love, respect, and acceptance and let you feel that you are enough.
GROWTH THROUGH CHALLENGES
Have you ever loved someone so much that you were determined to make the relationship work out, no matter what it took?
Many of us find ourselves at some point in relationships where we pour endless amounts of energy, love and work into. We keep giving to these relationships, even though the other is maybe a narcissist, dishonest, abusive (mentally, emotionally or physically) disrespectful and for some or other reason not able to be in a loving relationship.
Why on earth do we keep giving to these relationships?
It is because we have such a need to love and be loved. That the pains and traumas from our childhood and past lives are bringing us into alignment with these people to help us face and heal whatever needs to be. It is also the subconscious mind that has been programmed by the behavior of the adults around us as a child, the expectations of religion and society, schooling ex. All of this creates subconscious beliefs that keep us repeating the same old patterns and way of thinking.
These deep seated beliefs and programming can have us feeling
- We are not worthy of love
- We are not enough
- No one has or will ever love us
- Love always hurts
- We have to give love without receiving love
- Relationships are hard work
- We will always be alone
- We will be abandoned
- We will be alone
- And many more
CLIENT EXPERIENCES
When working with clients it is interesting how we almost always go back to a past life where we may have agreed to never love again, because we were hurt so badly by a loved one in a previous lifetime.
Sometimes a belief was shaped in a past life where you were treated so badly by your spouse that your subconscious programming is, this the way my life is and always will be.
Or maybe as a child you were not allowed to speak your truth or speak at dinner, that will create the subconscious programming that you should not speak up for yourself for the rest of your life, that your feelings and opinion does not matter.
It can also come down our ancestral line. Where maybe all women were abused or maybe where men had to be emotionally unavailable or maybe, if a man showed love he was regarded as weak.
Luckily all of this can be healed. We really don’t have to be stuck in this loop of karmic relationships. We are all capable of healing and reprogramming so that we can live a life of love.
In my Higher Awareness program, we go into this, if this is your intention. This is a 7 week program of soul guided healing.
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LANGUAGE OF LOVE
We also have to keep in mind that we show and communicate our love in different ways. I remember when I was still married, many years ago, I was talking to a friend one day about how I didnt feel appreciated and she told me about the 5 languages of love. I looked into it and it opened my eyes and made me realize that the way I show and communicate love can be very different from someone else’s way of showing love, which is fine. What is important is that the relationships you are in communicate the love to you in the love language that makes you feel loved.
I highly recommend you look into the 5 languages of love. Because if we are in relationships where the love language that we long for is not met, it can be a lonely relationship .
I have been really reflecting on relationships a lot this year, as 2023 is the year of relationships. My own relationships has gone through some big makeovers, big lessons, karmic cycles and soul contracts being completed and also some relationships blossoming into the most beautiful friendships . And what it all comes back to, is always the relationship with yourself.
SELF REFLECTION
When we feel worthy of love, because something deep inside of us let us feel so loved, so enough that whatever is not in alignment will fall away, if we allow it to. So if you are in a toxic relationship or feel hurt in a relationship, unloved or unfulfilled then working on yourself is the key, almost a secret I want to say.
But equally as important is the question you need to ask yourself; How much more energy and love do I want to put into this relationship ? How has all the energy and love that I have put in until now served me?
We are all in different stages of our spiritual journey and we all see, feel, taste, experience this world in our own way. But one thing is for sure we all deserve to be loved for exactly who we are.
Everything in life is a vibrational match, as our energy changes the outside world reflects it. As we change, our relationships change. Allow them to change.
In the pursuit of love, self-worth, and genuine happiness, it’s not uncommon to feel stuck, lost, or uncertain about what to do next. We all encounter moments in life when we grapple with questions like, “What do I truly need to feel fulfilled and worthy of love?” or “How can I find that inner joy that seems elusive?” If you find yourself facing these questions, I offes a powerful solution through my Higher Awareness program. The Higher Awareness program is a seven-week journey of self-discovery, inner healing, and personal growth that you embark on in a one-on-one setting with myself.
THERE IS A CHOICE
Remember everything in life is a choice, it is your choice to allow yourself to accept the behavior in relationships, it is your choice how you are going to react or act in every situation. It is also your choice to lovingly accept the other for exactly who they are and thank them for the life lessons and move on.
Your fears, doubts, anxieties, the what if’s and if onlys around love is a wake up call for you, to take responsibility for for the love you create in your life. Everything can be transformed.
We are not just talking about romance here, every single relationship in your life with every person in your life should be kind, respectful, compassionate, and loving.
A relationship is never a mistake, it is and was an experience we needed in order to grow for both parties.
CONCLUSION
As we continue to learn and grow, remember that our relationships are not just connections with others but also sacred opportunities to connect with ourselves and the divine. In working with me you learn to embrace this journey with an open heart and you will discover the incredible potential for transformation and spiritual growth that lies within each of us.
Lets embrace this journey of self discovery and transformation through our relationships
Love to you beautiful soul
Carmen Delport
Multidimensional healer, quantum healer, life coach, channel and mystic